Re: Feeling empty . . .
Submitted by JackWade on December 13 2001 05:23:00
In reply to Feeling empty . . . submitted by tigris on December 11 2001 21:29:03
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Hi Tigris, I just wanted to drop a note to ya that even though I can't top how ben said it, I just want to put my 2 cents worth. I just wanted to let you know that your situation where you are so emotionally attached, well, everything you said in your post actually described me down to a "T!" I have been so caught up with two young friends that if they even hinted that they didn't approve of me I would be irratable and just plain depressed until I felt like I made things better with them. I relized that in my situation that I was letting the two boys control me instead of reminding them that they are still beautiful young intelligent boys that need to be kept in check. That sounds harsh but I feel like thats the reality of it all. However, I can go into a two hour lecture about this I have get ready for work but, I just want to ellaborate on my experience and how I realized I was being controlled and manipulated by the boys and my own intellect! One time generically speaking, I baby-sat the boys so the parents can have a little respite from the kids. Well, to make a lng story short, I got in a situation that I knew I needed to tell the parents what happened, which was the right thing, but I didn't want to the boys to disapprove of me. I wanted their love more than anything. So I went against my instincts and let the boys cinvince me that the mom & dad didn't need to know. I wanted to believe that. Well, the moment of truth came and I purposely forgot to mention to the parents the situation. Well, they found out and I got into trouble. Well, since then I grew up and started being the adult I was supposed to be in the first place. The next time I told the parents exactly what went wrong and who started it. The boys didn't look like the appreciated me at that point. Infact they didn't really like me at the point in time. But you know what I found out? This is amazing. Not only did they get over their punishment and me telling on them, but it just made us grow closer because they found out that I loved them despite their behavior and that I'll still be here eagerly waiting for them to need someone to lean on. And as a bonus I gained more repect from them. So the moral of my story is that your young friends, even though you feel like they hate you. Deep inside them it's just them growing and developing just like you did when you were growing up. They don't hate you even though they may look like it or even talk like it. Well, I have to get to work. I think I said enough before I stick my foot in my mouth. Reply to my email or post Talk to you later. Thanks for listening. JackWade |
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