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Submitted by Dakota on March 16 2002 20:11:49
In reply to Sex and Candy (for Bach, Wolfcub, Ben, and Nate) submitted by Splash! on March 16 2002 04:16:51
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Boy, Splash, when you get going, you really get going. Just kidding, I liked what you wrote. I basically agree. I also very much agree with Nate when he says that the harm done to minors following the discovery of adult/child sex, often comes more from society and how people tell the boy how terrible it was, than from the actual contact itself. I have seen and read of this happening quite often. But I also believe the contact can also cause harm, even if the child consents. No, it doesn't ALWAYS cause harm, but it can, and is therefore not worth the risk. Like you Splash, I don't let myself dwell on how it MIGHT NOT be harmful to have sex with a boy. And I don't let myself think too much about if it MIGHT NOT be wrong. I do this for a very simple reason....I don't trust myself that much. I am very aware of how VERY much I would like to have a loving AND sexual relationship with a boy. And I realize that I can talk myself into believing most anything if I really want something bad enough. I still remember how for many years I considered myself bisexual, instead of a pedophile, in spite of tons of evidence to the contrary. Even though I was not interested in sex with men at all (unless they looked like boys), I still did not believe myself to be a pedophile. I could have passed a lie detector test. I would not let myself see the truth becasue I could not accept that I might be a pedophile. So if I could fool myself about that for years, I could also fool myself into thinking that sex with "this boy" would be ok. It wouldn't be harmful. It might even help the boy. No, I want this too much to make an unbiased decision on this matter. So I stick with the attitude that sexual contact with any boy is always wrong. Some would call that being closed minded. So be it. I would rather err on the side of doing no harm. Dakota |
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