Re: Sex and Candy (for Bach, Wolfcub, Ben, and Nate)
Submitted by Ben on April 2 2002 06:35:00
In reply to Sex and Candy (for Bach, Wolfcub, Ben, and Nate) submitted by Splash! on March 16 2002 04:16:51
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Hi Splash, Sorry for the delayed reply. I've been away from my computer for a few weeks (a healthy break). I'm glad to know that you have more or less come to the conclusion that sex with boys would be harmful to them. Really, there are a few main points that I can add: - The first is that, most studies have shown that boys who are sexually active (and I am including masturbation in here....any type of sexual gratification) at a young age and on a continuing basis, according to MOST studies, crave sexual release on a much more constant basis than those who wait until their mid or late teen years. Whether it is a psychological phenomenon or a physical one, their ability to restrain themselves and to curb their sexual appetite is diminished by giving into their early childhood sexual tension. While I do believe that the bible is silent on masturbation (forget Onan....I don't buy it) we have to remember that children in biblical times were married in their early teens anyway, and had far less time to satisfy their sexual cravings outside of marriage anyway. - The second is that sex between a man and boy is an unlevel playing field. The intensity of sexual desire and sexual release is far more powerful in a man versus a boy, resulting in a power imbalance. It is nearly IMPOSSIBLE for the man involved to truly evaluate whether a boy consents as he (the man) would be consenting, or if the boy is consenting for other reasons such as for attention, or because he feels that this is the only way that the man will love him, or if he incorrectly believes that he HAS to, even though in the man's mind it is optional. - Finally, the biblical approach. It is not marriage, but homosexuality. We can't get around it. I would argue that it is possible (though unlikely in our society) that a 13 year old boy can marry and therefore be sexual. I don't draw any lines in the sand about a boy's age. But the fact is that it is between two males, and it is furthermore not permanent. I know that others would argue my points. I have been on that side of the fence too as I said before. This is where I remain now. Yes, my sin involves fantasizing about what I claim here to be sinful. I can hardly stand on my high horse and preach to anyone. But I won't change my convictions to suit my desires. Instead, I have to pray that He will, in His time, change me into the likeness of Jesus. You are not alone. Love, Ben |
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