Re: Stopping the attraction?
Submitted by sally on April 5 2002 12:15:05
In reply to Re: Stopping the attraction? submitted by Dakota on April 5 2002 04:12:38
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Hi Dakota, Have you ever heard the saying "Don't beat your head against the wall, cause all it will accomplish is give you a headache?" The same is true about trying to change one's sexual orientation. While drugs can be a very hard thing to beat (I had a battle with drugs myself years ago), it is not an orientation. While some find drugs impossible to beat, there are still many recovered druggies like yourself. Show me a few recovered pedophiles. Show me a few recovered homosexuals. I don't mean the ones that brought their desires under extreme control to the point they can have a "normal" heterosexual relationship with someone. Even those are rare. Show me the ones that never ever have the tiniest of sexual thought about a kid or their own sex. Show me a few former pedophiles that can see a cute shirtless boy and not get that feeling deep inside them. They are virtually non-existant. Maybe a very few have experience a true miracle on the same level as making a blind man see. Those kinds of miracles can happen, but that's what it would take, a true miracle from God. I think you are being unfair. I don't believe that you will necessarily ever be a person who is never ever tempted by a boy. I am not saying that you should be that. I think that largely what Paul was saying was that these people had turned around. They had formerly lived as thieves and now they were working for a living. They had formally lived as alcoholics now they were sober. They had formally lived in homosexual relationships and now they were living in heterosexual relationships or were celibate. I don't know any alcoholics who can say they will never be tempted again. But the temptation grows much less as the years go on. I don't know of any homosexuals who would say they will never be tempted but they can make the temptation much less. And they can move to the place where they don't call themselves homosexuals anymore. I am not a druggy, I was one. The thing about druggies is this: we get to the point where we hate it so much and we know that we will either quit or be killed. I think that pedophiles can get to that point also. If we hate a thing enough we are able to quit it, I think. I believe that it is possible for people to change their sexual preferences so that instead of PREFERRING boys, they would PREFER their wives. That is not to say they will never be tempted by a boy. But that they are no longer boylovers because their preference has changed. Do you think that will take a miracle or do you think it will take sustained effort at taking every thought captive for Christ? What we prefer is a byproduct of how we think. We are not animals with no control over ourselves. We have bought into modern psychology's errant views on human sexuality. Any of us can be turned on by anything. Sex is in the mind. We can determine what will and won't move us. Once we feed a certain desire it gains ground and we will have a hard time being released from it but it is not impossible to replace old bad habits with new good habits. And sexual preference is just a habit. Tell me why I'm wrong. I do admit that I have never struggled with your sin. I just can't see why it is so different from the sin I have struggled with and still struggle with. sally@paraklesis.com |
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