Re: 'Young Friend'
Submitted by Genghis on May 21 2002 16:37:18
In reply to 'Young Friend' submitted by Genghis on May 18 2002 14:44:03
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Thanks guys for sharing what you believe "Young Friend" to be. When I first read Nate's post the first thing I thought was, "Wow!". To many of you, a YF is someone with whom you share a mutually deep relationship/friendship. Not just any friendship, but one in which you occupy a very special place in the boy's heart, so that after he "comes of age", he will still remember you forever as a loving father figure and more-than-mentor, as Splash says. Do any Christian BL'ers have other views on this? I also read Ben's post with much interest. In a sense I cannot give my whole heart out to a boy, because in a very short time (at most several years), the boy will cease to become a "boy", and while our friendship might remain, it will not be the same as it was before when he was younger and I looked at him with true love in my eyes. My heart will "break". Of course no one is saying that this is the only "right" way to be a BL'er - far from it. This is just one among many paths a BL'er could take, and many would suggest, correctly, that it is better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all. I wonder, however, how is it that we go into our "relationships" knowing full well, ahead of time, that it cannot survive for long. When boy meets girl, many things can happen and if all goes well, marriage and living happily ever after can occur. With a YF, you will spend his best years with him, but afterward he will venture out into the world and meet other people. Would a guy date a girl if he knew 100% that they would break up soon? (assuming he is not the sleazy type who is in it just for the ***) :-) Thanks all, and God bless you. Genghis |
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