our response to boys has, at its root, the same emotions that are acceptable in the wider world. It's just that sometimes, with some boys, we end up wanting to move the relationship into a sexualised arena; at some point we have come to see boys as 'sexual objects'. The question about cause asks why that happened - and the most aggressive assessment suggests that we are to blame for crossing that boundary. But at their core our reactions are not so unlike those of 'normal' people. |