Barnabas, I understand what you're saying, and I think it's true of a lot of BLs, but I also think you'll find a lot of people here in this forum who have kept on "loving" the same boys they loved several years before. I have one boy in mind that I know I will still be good friends with when he gets into his 30s and beyond. Yes, I lusted after him, but I also loved him, and love being greater, love won out. Think of it in terms of being a boy's mentor, teacher, or coach... many boys when they become men will look back on those times with fondness and probably want to get in touch with those older men who took care of them when they were younger. |