I used to think the same thing
Submitted by Drifter on 2002-08-28 15:47:00, Wednesday
In reply to boylove or boylust? submitted by barnabas1014 on 2002-08-26 22:27:52, Monday
| (as far as loving boys only until a certain age). But that was until I actually fell in love. I dont know if this is the norm, but from conversations Ive had with others, it seems that it is. I am not at all attracted to adults of any size/shape/sex, etc. However, when I fall in love, it is not with the outside of the person, its with the whole person. As they get older, I look at them and I may no longer feel that same level of physical attraction for them, but the love never leaves. He is still the boy I fell in love with, its still him, hes just older, but its still him, its still the one I love. I suppose its something difficult to explain until you have experienced it. But when you are with someone you love, it doesnt matter that they are no longer as attractive, because its the whole person you fell in love with. I suppose the same thing happens to heterosexual adults when their spouse gets old, they may not be the same person physically, they may have gained X number of pounds, be a lot more wrinkly, etc. but if their love was true, that love is still there even as they grow old and wrinkly together. The same could happen in any number of situations to gays, straights, bls, whatever. suppose the person you love is in some type of accident that leaves him/her disfigured, would you no longer love the person? you absolutely would, even though the physical attraction is gone. I think the bottom line is that you fall in love with people as a whole, not with just their outside appearance. |
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