One can only decide for themselves
Submitted by Reason Filled on 2002-09-24 22:39:23, Tuesday
In reply to THE choice for celibate Christian BLs submitted by Forgiven on 2002-09-24 13:29:13, Tuesday
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A few years ago (as a late teen), I knew I was not capable of trusting myself in a relationship with a boy. I avoided them. It was only through my family that I became close to young boys. I started to realize that I could use my love for them as a defense against the part of me that wanted see them as sexual beings. I would tell myself "If you truly love them, you will not see them in that way". Of course, I had a lot of help from God. I have started to be able to separate (in my mind) the selfish bl in me from the loving bl in me. From there, I just ignore the selfish bl. He tries to rationalize that type of relationship (as some others do on certain other boards) but I catch him before he get's anywhere and tell him "NO, that is not love". I expect I will learn much more as I grow, in life and in God. |
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