The Day after......
Submitted by Mavrick on 2002-10-16 20:28:16, Wednesday
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Hi all. Thanks for the emails and kind thoughts. And I want to thank Oliver for his taking time to chat with me last night. You were a great help. I hope some day we can meet you in person. Because I have discovered that there is another person on this site that uses J for his nick, I'm going to refer to MY J as JR. I have told him about it and he is okay with it. You will be glad to know that I am not using the speak and type program tonight. I finally found the command for stoping the program from running. Unfortunatlly I found it at 11:30 this morning. Sorry about all the junk in the one post from last night. I read it and I just shook my head thinking what a fool I looked like. Oh well. So iam typing with my left hand, which is a trick since I am not used to it. This morning JR didn't want to go to school. I think he was still dealing with the attack on the house. (he has asked me not to refer to it as his mom's house any more, just the house.) Pastor had told me to take today off so I could get some rest and take care of my hand and JR. JR and I hired a realeatate agent to sell the house. He came over and I showed him around the house. We decided on a price and I signed the paperwork. So the house is for sale. JR refuses to go over there again. I still have to decide what to do about my house. JR and I just laofed around and watched TV for most of the day. I worked on this Sunday's sermon (Pastor and I are taking turns.) and I got JR to help me with some research for it. He didn't really want to, but he did it any way. At 3:15 some of the teens from church showed up. They had come for two reasons: To cheer us up (Good luck) and to tell us that 3 of the people that had vandlized the house had been caught. Appeantly some of the teens in high school over heard one of the guys that was involved braging about it. From what I was told, one of the older guys from the youth group lost his temper and started a fight with him. They held the brager until the police arrived. The brager confessed everything and gave the names of 2 of the other people that he knew that were the. So the police have a solid lead. JR was glad and his mood improved greatly. The teens wanted to take us out to kind of celibrate. I told them they could take JR, but that I didn't want to go. The next thing I knew they were literally dragging me out of the house. I gave in and we went to the mall. Not my favorite place, but I was only interested in JR having fun. And he did. We were there for about three hours and the teens bought us dinner, refusing to let me pay anything. When I asked why one of the boys, who had been sick with mono for about a 2 month period last year, said, "When I was sick you were there almost every day helping me with my school work. When I was back on my feet you took me out for dinner and had refused to let me pay. So this is pay back." All in all a good reason and a good evening. Execpt that JR hit his hand on a railing when were leaving. He had his arm in the sling (only because I made him wear it) and was trying to race one of the kids to the car. He looked back over his shoulder and lost his balance aand reached out for a hand rail with his right hand. When his hand hit he let out with a yell and was cradeling it. The teens brought us straight home and I gave JR some of the pain med the doctor had perscribed. Taylanol #3. The stuff hit him hard. The teens had stayed to make sure he would all right. About 15 minutes after he took the pills he was hit by it. It was kind of funny to watch. He confessed his love for one of the older girls and told one other guys that his brathe needed a box of mints. He'll regrete it when he realizes what he said. JR is sleeping on the couch next to me. It's the first time he's had medication that strong and I wanted to keep an eye on him. So, I hooked up the laptop on got online. I sit here looking at him and I get this mix of emotins. Happy that he's my son, even though his mother had to die. Sad because he has been through so much in the past few months. Gratefull that he has grown comfortable here in his new home. And angery about the damage that was done to him by the vandilizing of his mom's house.... the house. I have struggled with the forgiveness issue all day. I have decided that I will forgive them for the damage to the house. But I can not bring myself to forgive them for the damage they done to JR. At least not until I have a chance to talk to them face to face. I had to sign the prosicution orders and I stipulated that I wanted the right to confront the offenders in a private meeting to be attend by myself and the Sargent. After that, I will still have to decide, but I will have a clearer picture why they did what they did. And why that house. I'm gonna go. My hand is rally starting to hurt and I need to take care of it. By the way, I want to thank everyone for the support that you have shown. I know that I don't fall into the standard BL catagory, but I feel at home here. And I also want to thank you for the comments, both good and bad, that you have made. I have been given a lot to think about. God bless you all. I am praying for you and the yf's you are dealing with. Mav. |
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