This is quite a long post, bear with me! I've been emailing a man in Canada who has expressed an interest in learning more about boylove from a woman's perspective. Here's the latest. Some of these questions strike me as being a bit.....hmmm. Yeah. I posted this a bit further down the list but it probably would have been overlooked. 1. **Looking at him, what features do you find attractive and is it only this particular boy, or all boys?** I definitely don't find all young boys attractive. There are certain qualities that turn my head their way, same as any other person in the world. :) That youthful age bracket really appeals to me. I love the flutey, excited sounds of young boys voices. I find their slender arms sexy, and the way their shoulders are on the brink of broadening. My finger has stroked that first sign of "bum-fluff" on the upper lip of several young boys. It turns me on. I feel a sense of loving release when I hug them, ruffle their hair, touch their cheeks, hold their hands, play games with them and admire them when they show off just for me. I enjoy watching pre-adolescent boys assert their up-coming manhood, while at the same time showing their vulnerablity. As for my boy specifically, I melt whenever our eyes meet, what more can I say! Something I've noticed lately is his eyebrows becoming thicker and more defined, and this somehow accentuates his nascent sexuality. (Can you tell I've got it bad? hehehehe) 2. **Is your mentality on the same level as young boys?** In many ways, I'm still just a kooky kid. I know I have the perceptions, intellect and cynicism of an adult, yet I blend in very well with younger people and I take my many opportunities to do so. It's where I belong. It's worth mentioning that physically, I'm tiny. I'm a dancer and very petite. I'm often mistaken for a 13-year-old, or there abouts. Some people would find this offensive but not me -- I love it. Children often make comments such as, "I can't believe you're 25!" They also see I have the best of both worlds; I can hang out with the kids and be one, yet they can rely on me to be the "responsible adult," if need be. I love being silly. I don't class myself as "mature" and I don't care if people think I'm strange. I probably sound like an unsocialized moron but I'm not. I can hold my own in adult company and I love deep talks about issues one can't discuss with kids. I just have different preferences and ideals than most adults. 3. **Do you think you're sexually mature, mentally speaking.** I'm unsure whether to class myself as "sexually mature mentally" or not. I feel prepared for sex and I'm fully aware of the implications attached to sexual relationships. I believe I'm ready - it just hasn't happened yet. 4. **Do you think the young boy is ready to have sex, mentally and physically?** The short answer is no, not yet. However, that doesn't mean he's not ready for other the other aspects of intimacy, for example, hand-holding, kissing, cuddling, (we've slept in each others arms quite a few times) mutual masturbation, general exploration. I don't think he's ready for oral sex and such. If the situation is ever presented, I'll leave it up to him. 5. **Do you think you're both sexually compatible?** I don't know how appropriate that question is but we know each other very well and have a great deal of care between us. I think this is the most important factor and I know this mutual respect would be of great benefit to us on a sexual level, if our relationship heads toward that dimension. There we are guys, I know this is far from the most academic post you've ever read but I hope you've found it interesting! Cheers, Sophie |