Some responses
Submitted by PlatonicDieci on 2002-12-7 14:28:10, Saturday
In reply to Re: Faith, Sex, and a 'Missing Link' submitted by Chris on 2002-12-6 15:13:50, Friday
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I too don't press people into my beliefs, though to be honest I have spent a lot of time (re)forming them to begin with in the past weeks. You say that God created sex for bringing children into the world. I would agree that is one of the beautiful parts of sex, but even in heterosexual union the vast majority aim at not having offspring. It certainly can't be wrong to not have children while having sex. In fact to me that's one of the awesome parts of my sexuality. There are so many kids in the world who don't have good parents already- my attractions lead me to be able to nurture them and take care of them as if they were my own. The joy of heterosexual union may never be one that I experience, hence precluding the joy of my own child's birth. Some may see that as sad but in my eyes each day I get to spend with a child I am blessed with helping raise and support is far more of a joy than the experience of having my own. There’s something to be said of choosing and being chosen in a relationship that deep. At any rate, not having children as a product of sexuality doesn’t mean the sexuality is wrong. The second issue you bring up certainly is a big one. I agree that the world is harsh, and that if the wrong people are brought into any AF/YF situation it can be traumatic for everyone involved. That doesn’t have to be the case however. I have personally spoken with many parents and YFs about my attractions, in open and honest ways. When you build a relationship in trust most people are able to see you for who you are, rather than through the stereotype associated. Fear of the unknown a strong force, become known and you bring light to darkness. Like I’ve said a few times, I know quite of a few situations personally. I’ve also met a few adult YFs who were at one time sexual with their AFs. They were happy and healthy people who I wish I had for friends myself. From their stories and relationships, some of which I directly observed, I began to reconsider the world quite a while ago. If the world never made you question or challenge your beliefs, you would never really know what they were or if you truly believed them. I do believe that there are some who society's views weigh so heavily on that they are unable to rise above them without immense support. You could liken it to becoming a Christian in a Muslim nation. Obviously in such a situation it wouldn’t be mutually desirable nor very loving to pursue anything beyond affection, and sometimes not even that much. While the sexual activity doesn’t produce offspring, and there is a significant social stigma, I still don’t think two mutually loving people under God’s grace are taking part in evil to show that love in the most physically intimate way. Let me clarify again though, I do not have such a situation- nor do I feel I will in the near future. I am not currently, nor planning on, doing anything to or with anyone else that would be against even the most rigid moral viewpoint. Thanks for your response Chris! Love In Christ Jesus, Plato |
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