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Submitted by Someone wishing to remain anonymous on 2002-12-8 12:09:26, Sunday
In reply to marriage and MARRIAGE..... submitted by Forgiven on 2002-12-8 04:11:36, Sunday
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The modern Western belief that there must be a strong romantic love between the partners in a marriage is an error - it is clear that down history successful marriages have been built on other bases, and the present divorce pandemic in the West suggests that we have got it badly wrong. That's a good point, the romantic notion of marriage is a rather new invention and a far cry from the arranged marriages that make up most of history. I hadn't considered that angle. 'Christian' marriage implies a permanent, exclusive, sexualised relationship between the partners. While I do not know about the sexual part of it, this would be permanent. I hadnt considered the exclusivity of it and will have to ponder that question. Also how far is she aware you are a BL (I assume that's why you are visiting us!) or does she just assume you are 'vanilla gay'? We are best friends, she knows nearly everything about me. One very pointed question - would you be as happy to have a daughter as a son? I would love my daughter just as much, though I think Id keep trying till I have at least one son. Theres nothing strange about that though, dont most men want a son to carry the family name? how far are you having children for your own sake, and how far for theirs... If it were only for their sake then no one would have children. In this day and age its often better not to bring children into this world of suffering. My conclusion thus far: This idea remains on the table until we are both financially stable enough to consider making this move. |
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