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Submitted by Drifter on 2003-01-21 02:11:17, Tuesday
In reply to my first outcry submitted by self-destructive on 2003-01-21 00:36:23, Tuesday
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Most of us have been where you are right now. I remember being your age and being so conflicted about my sexuality. It was a period of confusion, fear, anger, and despair. But there is a light at the end. The media will tell you that pedophiles cannot control themselves and will always molest. But as you will find out, this is not true. I myself, and many others on this board can attest to that fact. There are several things you should realize. First of all, not all pedophiles are exclusively so. I am attracted only to boys, but there are others here who are equally attracted to women (or men for that matter). So, do not close off all other possibilities just yet. You are still young and it is normal to be unsure (or wrong outright) about your sexuality. Secondly, you should realize that sex does not equal love. One can exist without the other and you should learn to love without adding sex into the mix. It is ok to love boys, and it is ok to show that love by being a good friend to whatever boys you come into contact with. You can show that love through tutoring, helping them with their homework, playing with them, talking (and more importantly, listening to them), and just paying attention to their needs. If you can control your sexual urges (and doing this becomes easier with time), then you do not have to avoid kids. Boys can be a prominent part of your life if you can learn to control your sexual urges. Third, (though probably first in importance), you should realize that God loves you. He loves you just the way you are. If you have grown distant, then perhaps it is time you return. God does not hate you because of the thoughts you have. God understands the difference between temptations and actions. He will not condemn you for being tempted. God is ready to take you back with open arms. From God, you can gain the strength to control your sexual urges. God can also help you deal with your feelings when you get sad. There are few people who can be trusted enough that you can tell them absolutely anything, and God is one of these people. At night, before you go to bed, take some time to talk with God. Tell him how you feel, tell him whats on your mind. Ask God for guidance so that you may become the person that God wants you to be. There is more that I could say, but I will let you think about these things Ive mentioned for now. I hope you will come back to this board and we will hear more from you. You dont have to go at this alone, there are many of us out here, and we are ready to give you a helping hand. If nothing else, we can listen to anything you want to say, and we understand because we have been there. As you see from the results of this survey, the people here are in various states of acceptance over their feelings. You will find that as you come to understand and accept who you are, your mood begins to change, and you feel less sad every day. One day you will look back at the years that you wasted being depressed when the key to happiness was there all along. It happened to me, and I wasted quite a bit of time, I hope that with the support available to you here, and the help of God, you wont have it as hard as I once did. love in Christ Jesus, Drifter e-mail: webnomad@ziplip.com url: http://www.fpc.net/sites/drifter/ |
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