Re: We're all getting there bit by bit
Submitted by Jeremy on February 04 1999 at 03:13:37
In reply to We're all getting there bit by bit Submitted by F.O.D. on February 01 1999 at 16:48:06
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F.O.D., thanks for your response and support. sorry it took so long to get back to you, I've signed my life away to my studies recently... You wrote: Incidentally, I had a YF who was a pastor's kid. He had a great family, they even accepted me as own of their own! But his dad was really happy for us to be friends - I think even in healthy families a good parent recognises the benefit of a variety of more mature people having good input into the lives of their kids. Call it "babysitting", taking the load off the parents for a while, if you like :) Yeah, I guess I can't rule out anything with God, and I know he can work in any and all situations... the thing with this experience is that I realized how I need to be convinced more that boyloving can truly be used by God before I can embark on any relationship (if one should come up) with a boy. This relates because, especially if a boy has a great supportive family, I feel like I'm after something mischevious or 'pulling the wool over the eyes' of the boy and his family in pursuing a relationship... does that make sense at all?? It's like if a boy has the support and love already, the only thing I have to offer in addition to this is the side of boylove that I don't think is constructive for me or a boy-- ie. sexual relations (I sound like B. Clinton don't I). that is why I'm hesitant to embrace such relationships at this point... I guess another answer would be that too much love and support can't hurt anyone :-> You also wrote: Are our feelings the result of the Fall? I don't know. If the anti-homosexuality understanding of God's will is correct, then it follows logically that our "natural" feelings have their origin in the Fall. But I guess for me I find myself taking a more pragmatic approach, saying "OK these feelings are there, but while I'm waiting for them to go away, what kind of helpful things am I going to make of them to bring God more glory and show real love to someone." Yes, I totally agree. And I think I came to this point of saying 'ok, these feelings are there, what am I gonna do until they change?' only recently which is why I'm asking these questions now... Thank you so much for caring enough to share your insights! Hope to hear from you again, Jeremy ps - feel free to email me: jeremyrock@hotmail.com |