John - Your questions are the same ones that I am asking myself right now. Consider also that I am NOT Christian at this point (though lots of things are changing fast for me :-) and like you my sexual life revolves around masterbation. I am quite lucky in that I do not have any need for erotica to fuel my fantasies. I am perfectly content with thinking about boys on the beach in swimwear (speedos are my favorites). Still there is probably no difference in God's eyes between different levels of erotica. The question still becomes whether or not it is acceptable. Down below I posted this very question. Here I am flirting with Christian ideals out of my own desire to seek God while I KNOW that aspects of my life might be completely contradictory to what I will find! You would think that I would get out now while I still can :) Of course God will exist whether I seek him or not, and Jesus will be the son of God if he IS, not if I FIND HIM. I have to believe that God made us sexual beings, and that he expects us to be thoughtful and responsible with what we do with these feelings. Certainly, God would prefer you and I to lay in bed at night and fantasize about boys than to do anything sexual with them. I cannot believe that he intends us to torture ourselves with never thinking or fantasizing about them, since it will happen in our sleep anyway even if we don't allow it to happen while we are awake. I don't have a firm answer as to whether we can justify our sexual outlet. I don't believe that our sexuality is a CHOICE. But our actions certainly ARE. You are not alone. Ben |