Re: obsessive-sexual-codependent factor in pedophilia
Submitted by John Guard on March 15 1999 at 00:19:02
In reply to obsessive-sexual-codependent factor in pedophilia Submitted by Mark on March 14 1999 at 22:57:54
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For the record, I never said that pedophilia is more problematic than "normals". Sin has a lot of branches...and pedophilia is but one of them. Any kind of dependency on anything outside of GOD is a manifestation of sin. Your point is valid, I have worked with tons of "normals" who are dependent/obsessive towards women, money, success, et al...but it doesnt make them any worse or better than that pedophilia. However, from a public standpoint, children, especially little ones do not have the maturity to decide for themselves what they want/need. There is the issue of power-balance. Women USUALLY or SHOULD have the maturity to do so. Money, success and other intangible objects of dependency/obsession are "neutral" objects. Therefore, in this context, yes, pedophilia is more of a problem than the norm BUT only in the context of sexual lust. If one restricts things to just emotional dependency, then no, pedophilia is no better or worse than an overprotective or paranoid or possessive parent. It doesnt make it less wrong though. With the homosexuality issue... I dont necessarily agree or disagree with the belief that there is always an underlying root problem associated with homosexuality. I believe that there are significant genetic AND environmental factors involve. The same applies to pedosexuality, although I admitedly lean on the environmental factor in this case. This is based on my inference on the lives of a lot of pedophiles I have worked with. In many, though not in all cases, there is an underlying root problem in their lives. One important thing to point though, is that everyone has a root problem, and the root problem is SIN. Is pedosexuality so much worse in GOD's eyes than all other symptoms of Sin? I dont think so. A guardian who physically or emotionally or spiritually abuses a child is no better in GOD's eyes than those who sexually abuse them...but abuse is abuse..and the LORD said that it is better for one to kill himself than to offend the little ones. I am not a doom and gloom person... I know for a fact that only a small proportion of pedophiles actually molest or harm children. I am not against pedophiles loving and caring for children. A good proportion of pedophiles I worked with make better parents than a lot of "normal" parents I know. Children deserve to be love and feel loved. What I am against is putting the children before GOD. We may feel sincere in our love for the kids but we can still be sincerely wrong. When we put GOD first in our hearts and in our lives...maintaining a clear focus on HIM and HIS WILL, then our work with the kids will be much more productive and joyful. Again, my 2 cents In Christ, John |