begging to differ
Submitted by F.O.D. on April 29 1999 at 09:21:08
In reply to An Approach to Pure Boylove Submitted by Thumb on April 29 1999 at 02:01:33
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Begging to differ with the two "newbies" who already responded (hehe guys, check out oldposts, that's CBF oldposts. Ben, you didn't forget Thumb, did you?)...of course it's fine to talk about this here (in my opinion).. True you may well get more responses at BoyChat, but I don't know how many of them will be positive... Thumb, I suppose in many ways it's a question of definition, "what is a boylover". For most of us here, yes you are right, we do feel a sexual attraction towards boys, which does make us "pedophiles" (depending, again, on one's definition, but basically, yes, what you're saying is correct). We're not afraid to admit that here, that, in fact, is why we are here. But some of us, myself included, too would probably agree to define a boylover as someone who has an unusually strong emotional bond with boys, so the sexual feelings need not be there (as they are not in your case). Others will say that the sexual attraction is what differentiates a boylover from someone who is just "nice to kids". And certainly what makes a (sexually attracted) boylover different from a "strict" pedophile, is that he strives to do all the best to help the boy he is in love with in all areas of that boy's life...teaching him, being an stable adult example for him, feeding and clothing him...and subduing and controlling the sexual feelings. A "strict" pedophile I suppose is only interested in the boy sexually, has no desire for caring for the boy otherwise. So for me, yes I fall in love with the boys who are close to me, whom I am friends with, and I wish with some of them I could do something sexual, like maybe masturbating them to make them feel nice (ie I'm not referring to anything penetrative. My attraction is towards teens, BTW). Yes these desires are there, and so the question for me as a boylover is then to control those desires to make sure they don't become a real action causing real harm to the boy. To learn the place of sexual action, and say "this is not the place". You, as a non-sexually attracted boylover, are in a good position to remind the rest of us of the consequences of acting out on our feelings, while having an understanding of where those feelings come from, at least in an emotional sense. You can help to make sure we don't allow our hormones to overrule our better senses. Thanks for your thoughts. Fod ps what do you mean by "b2h"? |