Thanks for reassuring me – and I'm sorry for giving you a totally unnecessary lecture. I really did read your post through three times to see whether I was missing any clues. :) Yes, blind love can be awfully blind – I was totally manipulative of the guys I was in love with in college, and totally oblivious to the fact that I was being manipulative. When people at BC ask me occasionally, "Why are you so hard on boylove?" I reply, "Because I've been in love." Heather |