Well . . .
Submitted by Heather on August 21 1999 at 03:22:53
In reply to No, Jim... Submitted by Triple Q on August 21 1999 at 02:20:27
|
. . . I seem to recall a certain lady named MarchHare who revised her views. :) But yes, I think it's a matter of choosing one's battles – or rather, choosing one's battle methods. I've learned this from talking with ardently pro-sex boylovers. :) If talking with a person from one perspective doesn't work, then you need to change your ground – toget to know the person better and to understand why he holds the views that he does. You may not be able to change his views on the subject, but you will be able to change his views on you. Remember how Josh softened toward you (even at the same moment he was unwittingly insulting you)? I think that Josh, for all of his limited views, left RDC with a different view of boylovers than he'd had when he arrived. Similarly, if someone says, "You have demons," and I shout back at him, it's only going to reinforce his view that I'm demon-possessed. If I speak gently with him, it might occur to him eventually that there's a conflict between his theory and the person's actual behavior. I've always thought that turning the other cheek is the sneakiest form of attack ever invented. :) Heather |