Urges, I get these urges
Submitted by Night Wolf on August 24 1999 at 15:11:54
In reply to Is there a cure Submitted by Ewok on August 24 1999 at 00:20:33
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Hi there, I can understand you wanting to not have any sexual attraction for boys. I've felt that way in the past myself, largely because it's very inconvenient at times. However, it's not something that is easy to do. You can limit your exposere to boys, but that's not the same as loosing the urges. That's just avoiding the thing that tempts you. A therapist once suggested aversion therapy to me, but that sounded like a horrible idea to me. I didn't want to feel ill everytime I saw a cute boy. I think the most importaint thing to do is to draw a distinction between thought and deed. You might get annoyed at your professor and wish that you could go up and slug him, but if you do not do it, I think this is not wrong. I once heard Dr. Ruth say that she considered all sexual fantasy to be harmless as long as it remained fantasy. You may find that if you give yourself free reign in your fantasies, that tempations will arise less in real life. That is what ultimately worked for me. Night Wolf |