A late response
Submitted by Bach on October 10 1999 at 14:37:18
In reply to I'm ready to ask for help now! Submitted by Brian on October 07 1999 at 00:26:23
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Hi Brian, You wrote: My love for boys, I do not see as being sinful. My sexuality is in itself good because God gave that to me; it is a part of who I am; my nature. The abuse of my sexuality, however, is where my sin lies. ... Anyway, in the last couple of months I have nearly self-destructed myself with guilt about what I was thinking about doing and being a Christian As our friend honesty pointed out, guilt is one of the big problems that we have as Christians. In our earnestness we sometimes get ourselves tied up in knots! I see sin as separation from God. Myself, I see masturbation as a good thing. I do not believe that it separates me from God. In fact, I believe that God considers this an acceptable outlet for the sexual drive that he gave me. I do not think that he expects me to abstain from all expressions of sexuality. I know that there are posters here who are struggling with masturbation. For them it seems to be sinful to actively stimulate themselves and I can respect this as a personal conviction. I do not think, however, that it is helpful as a general guideline -- that is to say widely condemned as happens in certain churches. So I believe the question is for each of us -- what is a healthy expression of the sexuality God gave me? How does God want me to express my identity as a boylover? What are the limits and boundaries that I need to respect? Self-destructing with guilt does no one any good. There is an expression that I like -- "freedom in Christ" -- that Christ came to release us from bondage in sin to a fullness in life. Let's pray that we may find ways to experience that fullness and grow in love of God. Peace of Christ, Bach 
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