Mark - Thanks for your reply. A couple of anecdotes: a) I also grew up in a wonderful family and was never abused. My brother and sister are both straight. I could run through my own theory of why I became a BL. I strongly believe that had my dad been more in tune to me and my life I might have ended up heterosexual. But once I began fantasizing about boys, my sexuality became more or less locked into place. b) Anal sex is physically damaging (not necessarily horribly damaging, but an indication that it wasn't intended by God to be this way). You are not alone. Ben |