Re: The real dilemma
Submitted by Heather on November 02 1999 at 21:06:33
In reply to The real dilemma Submitted by Mark on November 02 1999 at 20:47:13
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"I can only see two ways out of this dilemma: either celibacy is not so hard as our society thinks, or there must be a resonsible way for BLers to express themselves sexually." A simple question: Why are you expecting life to be fair? Your statement seems to imply that boylovers are going to be allowed an option that is easy. But that isn't true for the rest of us who are struggling with a desire toward some behavior that we believe we shouldn't act on. To use Bach's example: it was hard as heck for me to "remain celibate" during my years of clinical depression (and during occasional relapses into it) - that is to say, to keep from acting on my desires that would have hurt other people. I didn't conclude from this, "Either keeping from throwing a chair at my parents is not as hard as the mental health community thinks it must be for people like me, or there must be a responsible way for me to express my anger." I'm not ruling out the possibility that there is a responsible way of expressing one's sexuality (as in masturbation), but I don't think that one can conclude that there must be one simply out of a determination that one's life be as easy as it is for some other people. Life deals some of us really lousy hands. I think it's fair to say that celibacy in this society is terribly hard. What's amusing is that the boylovers who talk about changing society so that it's better for boylovers, never talk about changing society so that celibacy becomes fashionable again. :) Heather |