Re: Paradigms
Submitted by Val. on November 06 1999 at 10:51:32
In reply to Paradigms Submitted by Mark on October 31 1999 at 21:55:56
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Hi Mark, I don't know why I missed your post on Paradigms but it is exactly the kind of thing I was hoping to find. First of all, I am a woman. Not that that changes anything but it does add a different perspective to the situation. My struggle is with two people I love, my son and my friend. I certainly see in my friend's life his love for boys, in the best sense of all that. Actually, he cares for all people. It was the care and kindness that attracted me to him in the first place. My son is (or was) the recipient of the best part of that love. Helping my son with the "other" part of that love is a challenge all its own. Your discussion of the paradigms of the situation has given me new insight about this. I am open-minded and I really am trying to get as much information as I can to try to understand what this is about, not what society wants me to think. That I found a place where others who live with this are willing to talk about it is really a miracle. My friend lives with this entirely alone. He has his own paradigms about himself that aren't all that forgiving or healthy. (Hence, the comments about demons and monsters, good and evil). Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Know that you helped someone continue to find her way. Val. |