FOD - As soon as I began your post I realized that for a BL who is also gay, my post does not apply. If you are also attracted to men, you definately can maintain that love and attraction to a boy as he becomes a man. For those of us who are not attracted to men however, the fact will remain that our attraction fades once a boy grows older. Thanks for making this very important point which probably applies to half of the BL's here. You are not alone. Ben |