not really, Ben
Submitted by F.O.D. on November 25 1999 at 16:23:47
In reply to Re: twin concerns Submitted by Ben on November 25 1999 at 10:33:38
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Hi Ben, I appreciate your thoughts about how we have to be prepared for our attraction towards a boy to dwindle, and how this enables us to reach the hearts of many boys. But it doesn't really apply. One of the most tragic phenomena of any form of 'pedophilia' is the fact that the desire portion of our love will always fade. Not for me anyway. My love towards my YFs remains firm, even as they have become men, and that includes the romantic component. One of my older YFs is now in his early 20's, and a few months ago I met a guy who looked so much like him I couldn't believe it. I kissed this guy farewell, and damn me if it wasn't like kissing my YF farewell. That is partly why I am unable to acknowledge any meaningful distinction between paedophilia and homosexuality, between being a boylover and being gay. For me it really is one and the same thing. Of course the friendship component, the filial love will in any case always remain, and will stay firm even if the boy goes on to pursue a relationship with a girl. But what I'm saying is that, for me, the desire, the sexual component remains constant even as boy becomes man. Indeed, I might even go so far as to say the advancement of our relationship into an adult friendship is the justification for the effort invested into him as a boy. Anyway, my complaint is not over starting to love the next boy when the former has moved on, but dealing with being in love with both of them at the same time. Hoping for more insights, Fod |