Re: twin concerns
Submitted by Ben on November 25 1999 at 10:33:38
In reply to twin concerns Submitted by F.O.D. on November 25 1999 at 03:31:08
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FOD - I think that we have to distinguish between love that includes attraction and love that does not. We can love our Mom and our Dad, our brothers, our sisters and our friends all at the same time, without having to limit the amount of love that we pour out of ourselves. This love is usually void of any 'desire' or attraction. Love that we feel for a boy (as BLs....if we were heterosexual it would be for a woman) has this additional component that compels us to love all the more deeply. So many times I have loved a boy so deeply, and that love has remained even after he got older. Yet as the attraction faded, my compulsion to love him more deeply has dwindled and what remained was a love of caring - a brotherly type of love, but no longer a love which included 'desire'. One of the most tragic phenomena of any form of 'pedophilia' is the fact that the desire portion of our love will always fade. I am struct by the fact that I do not know what it is like to be attracted to someone for more than a few years, because every boy that I am attracted to eventually grows up. How strange it must be to be able to hold attraction to the same person year in and year out! Perhaps we, as BLs, are programmed by God to feel love in a way that is understood to move and transition on to the next boy. While it is tragic for us, as BLs, it allows many boys lives to be touched during our lifetime. I see no reason why you cannot love both boys, even if the love is slightly different. It may be incumbent to boylove to be able to love multiple boys because if we were to be bound to one boy for life, it would be like becoming a widower every few years. You are not alone. Your bro in Christ, 
Ben 1 Corinthians 13 1If I speak in the tongues [1] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, [2] but have not love, I gain nothing. 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. 13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. |