Re: Should I tell?
Submitted by Cherub30 on November 26 1999 at 17:42:23
In reply to Should I tell? Submitted by Tedd on November 26 1999 at 09:03:01
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Hello. Although I am not a BL, I would like to respond if it's okay. First of all, I have visited mental health professionals before. I saw one when I was a teen and she tried her best to get me to talk about my sexuality. I think she knew I was gay and wanted me to talk about it. But I clammed up and did not even take the bait. I wish I had talked to that person about my being gay. Many years later, I found out that she is a lesbian and we have talked at length about my being gay. She would have ofered me a great deal of support back then. And that was something I really needed to hear. For too long, I thought my same-sex feelings were sinful and from Satan. I hated myself and wanted to die. I was a very unhappy person. This went on for several years. Later, as an adult, I saw a professional again. This time, I was more forthcoming and told this person that I was gay. I was totally honest about my feelings and attractions. I cannot tell you how much this man helped me. I remember him so well. He was only about 5 foot tall but he might as well have been a giant from where I was standing. He made me understand that I did not choose to be gay and that God did not hate me because I was attracted to other men. This man was a Savior of sorts. I say all of this but I want you to know that my situation is a little different than yours and others on this message board. I did not have to admit to attractions to boys. I think that anytime you speak to a mental health professional, you should speak with God first and ask Him to guide what you tell and what you don't tell. I firmly believe that total honesty is the best thing, but realistically you should make sure that you don't do or say anything that could hurt you. Let God be a voice that you listen to and if you do that, I sincerely believe He will lead you in the right direction. Good luck. Cherub30 |