Hi zip, Yes, theoretically I understand and know what to do and what not to do. The problem comes when a real situation arises where I'm tempted to forget it all. I'm not in one of those situations at the moment, so I suppose that's why I'm a bit apathetic when it comes to posting here... But what I find is that making real deep friendships outside the area of attraction helps to keep the balance; it prevents that emotional roller-coaster. But then I've always been a bit of a Stoic anyway. With love, Jules |