Message for Ben - hello!
Submitted by Researcher on June 09 2000 09:10:10
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Hello Ben! A huge apology for taking so long to get back to you after your very kind and much appreciated offer to answer my questions. The last few weeks have been thoroughly manic - I get help from all sorts of people from all over England, and have spent the last two weeks sitting on trains doing mad dashes from one of the country to another setting up interviews and presenting my work. Things are noticeably calmer now so I can return my attentions to the internet community. This study takes me down all sorts of new paths and I am always learning to incorporate the different areas into my time. I think I have now successfully sorted out my email element which will reduce if not remove previous delays. I hope you are still interested and have taken the liberty of posting below my first set of questions. There are quite a few questions altogether (these are just some opening ones), but I am keen to be 'true' to the volunteer, that is to give them the best opportunity to relay their thoughts and experiences. As I have said before, the majority of research does not seem to do this any more and satisfies itself with a brief oneline description of the 'subject'. I have read your other posts and understand that now may not be a good time for you as you have matters more demanding of your time and consideration. So, please take your time and do not rush/ feel rushed - if someone is good enough to help me, then things will be done at their pace. I look forward to hearing from you at some point and at your convenience. Until then, take care. Best wishes Claire IDENTITY QUESTIONS (FOR CHILD LOVERS PRACTICING SEXUAL CELIBACY) o How important is your sexuality to your overall self identity? o Could you describe to me when did you first realised that you were more drawn/attracted to minors? For example, how old were you, what stage of your life were you at (job/relationships), your personal environment and more general social climate at the time? o Could you describe to me the process of discovery that led you to recognising your attraction? Was there a definitive moment that confirmed your attraction - could you describe this? o How did you feel when you realised that you may have what is a 'taboo' attraction? What were your concerns and how did you deal/overcome these? How a person views their sexuality is, to a significant degree, based upon their feelings, the focus of these feelings, the attitudes towards these feelings and how these feelings are allowed to express themselves. Also, how you perceived other peoples' sentiments towards such feelings and their expression. Keeping this in mind……. o Prior to realising your attraction, how would you have described your sexuality (what sort of feelings did you have, and for whom, what sort of outlet did these feelings have - how were they allowed to express themselves)? o How would you have described your sexuality when you first realised your attraction to minors? o How do you think your sexuality has changed since then? How would you describe your sexuality and your feelings towards minors now - how would you describe the interactions you have with them? Why do you think any changes have come about in how you feel? o As a non-contact child lover, how do you think your feelings/nature of your attraction differs from those who: o Do not identify themselves as child lovers? · Those (of which you may identify several general groups) who do interact sexually with children? o Being able to express one's sexuality is an important factor of how one identifies oneself. As a non-contact boy lover, how does your sexuality express itself (which parts do you show and which parts do you not, and why?) o How do you think your expression of your sexuality has changed since you realised your attraction to minors? o Are you comfortable with your sexuality now - have you always felt this way about your sexuality? o If yes, what process do you think you have gone through and issues you have tackled to achieve this acceptance? · If no, what issues do you have whose resolution you think will make your sexuality easier to accept? Do you think you will be able to overcome these issues, and if so what do you think you can do to promote this process of acceptance? o Do you recognise any aspects of yourself in definitions and concepts of paedophiles used by society and researcher literature? Where do you divert from these conceptualisations? o What aspects of child lovers' identities do you think commonly accepted definitions omit? What benefits do you think non-child lovers would gain if they recognised these ignored aspects of identity? |
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