I was quite certain for many years that no person could change his sexuality; in fact, I wrote a novel that memorializes this view. Then, after years of reading stories about people who had tried to change their sexual feelings and failed, I started reading stories about people who had tried to change their sexual feelings and succeeded; it made me realize how wonderfully complex the causes are for people's sexual feelings, and what very different paths people travel in their attempts to reach spiritual and mental wholeness. What is poison for one person may be lifegiving medicine for another.
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