For a start I don't like the idea that all adult/child sexing is abuse or mollesting.

I don't disagree with you on this. HOWEVER, when people like us (people who really really want to sex a kid) start playing the percentage game, it leaves the door WIDE open for justification. Maybe for some of you the fact that God says no is always enough to refrain. If so, I admire your faith. For me (and a lot of other Christians) God saying no isn't always enough, at least not all of the time. So when we start toying with the idea that not ALL boys are hurt by sexual contact, it's a very short step to start toying with the idea of being sexual with a boy if and when the opportunity presents itself. Maybe some of you have supreme confidence in your will power. But for myself, I start applying the brakes well before I see the cliff ahead of me.