I didn't like this article.

For a start I don't like the idea that all adult/child sexing is abuse or mollesting.

I don't like the idea of offering healing as an option when there is so little evidence about that it occurs with any kind of regularirty that would inspire us to look for it as a reliable option.

I also believe that, whilst he says many pedophiles have not acted on their sexual desires, he thinks that we are often only "an oppertunity away" from doing so. I like to hold more hope than this that abstaining is not that big a deal and that pleanty of us are doing it and not having any trouble doing it.

I don't think that fantasy automatically increases one's chances of "mollesting".

It's all just my opionion of course, but I feel he claims too much and offers too little. His program of confession and accountablity is great in it's place. I have found those things indespensible in my own journey... but are they going to help everyone? I know they sure aren't some magic formula that will make every boylover's life safe and easy.

Why can't we just accept what we are... suffer the losses gracefully and get on with life.

Sure we don't want to go out and sex some boy and end up in jail and all that jazz... but is the struggle aginst that REALY the defining struggle of the average boylover's life. I just don't think it is.

Blessings
Cat.