Xiao,

First off I say a hearty greetings and welcome to our little corner of the internet, it is good to have you here. You offer a different perspective and I welcome it I hope you come back and make more posts, maybe we can mutually learn from each other. You sound like a very good rare Christian, mature and intelligent too. So maybe I can do what I enjoy and start this off, I hope you bite.

"I have to admit that I had to go and think about it for it a bit, and
let me explain why. I was abused by a child pornographer at the age of
4/5 years. I totally suppressed all memory of the abuse but was left
carrying the scars without ever knowing WHY I felt that way."

I really truly am sorry this happened to you. It obviously hurt you very badly and I hope you can continue to make progress in letting this have less of a hold over you.

"but when confronted with people who are doing something very similar to the acts that scarred my life it wasn't quite so simple."

"its also pretty evident that desires aren't acted on however it is also evident that many are still struggling with some issues."

So which is it?

"But I need to say it. I need to be the one to represent a position of forgiveness and Love without condemnation."

Gandhi once said "Be the change you want to see in the world" and you my friend are living that. Thank you. But your next line goes right back to my previous issue, saying you do not approve of our behavior. I have never done anything sexual with a kid, though I cannot speak for everyone here. What are you accusing us of doing that you do not approve of?

I say these things in great respect for you, it takes a great amount of maturity, courage, and intelligence to have the stance you have and then to come here to talk to us. I really do hope you stick around for at least a little while or even a long time to talk to us.