Oh no, not with 'friends' as such. Just willing people who want pretty much the same thing I do. Maybe it's just because since I am a male I see sex as being so far apart from direct intimacy. I can easily imagine being intimate and sexually active with more than one person and the whole 'one flesh' business is rather alien. Besides, it only means that two partners become one co-operating unit, it does not really have anything to do with sex.

One thing you said about sleeping around and then getting married, the sex wouldn't be the same. Fair enough, I have not tried it... but I don't understand your point in the slightest. It's not as if I would be having sex with people in some kind of abusive manner. Every person I sleep with I would love especially as a human being, even if that 'love' were only for a night. If I then got married and found a 'soulmate'... how would sex lose it's meaning? This just boggles me.

Just saying how I feel about it. Maybe I'm different because my hunger is not just for sex but for intimacy. I wouldn't shag someone who wasn't interested in the luvvy-duvvy aspect.

Perhaps in such comminities there are no people like that... I don't know, I haven't been there.