Bigcalv, I've always admired and appreciated how you boldy state what you believe in your heart. You don't hedge or water down anything. And I've agreed with you on many things. But I have to disagree with you on this issue. Of course, if someone thinks there is a chance he might do something inappropriate with a YF, then he shouldn't pursue mentoring one. But we all have a choice in what we do, including eating donuts. And the only reason anyone would have in going in a donut shop is to buy donuts or tempt themselves, whereas mentoring a boy has a whole lot of possible benefits for both boy and adult.

Yes, I know that a lot of molesters say afterwards that they never meant for it to happen, which is why we need to be honest with ourselves regarding our level of self control and our level of temptation in given situations. Also, it's important to put certain restrictions on ourselves as far as what situations to avoid. This is important to boylovers so we don't put undo temptation before us, but also important for any man in these times so as not to foster even a hint of suspicion from others. In my own case, I never allow a boy to sleep over. It's just too intimate a situation for me.

Joseph fled from Potiphar's wife because she was trying to tempt him. If a YF tried to sexually tempt us, it might be a good idea to flee from them too. But I'm sure Joseph didn't flee from every woman he met. But of course we all should do what we feel God is leading us to do.

The catch 22 we as boylovers face is that most of us are not only attracted to boys sexually. We truly do love them and care about them, often times more than so called normal men. My personal belief is that our devotion to boys is a gift from God, but our sexual attraction to them is Satan's attempt to sully that gift. Some people, especially non-boylovers, believe our devotion to boys stems from our sexual attraction to them. But even if that were true, taking a true Godly interest in boys is a great way to turn what could be a problem if we let it into something very positive. I think the old saying, don't throw the baby out with the bathwater, applies here. I could rephrase it into don't throw the boy out with the lust.

Dakota