...just quit feeling that way. I know it's hard to do because I have been there myself. I know exactly how you feel and I know how difficult it can be. You are right, it feels exactly like you are walking on a tightrope. Since he is the age he is, and from my experience, I'm sure he just worships you whether he is with you or not. I remember "L"'s mom used to tell me how he would talk about me to everyone, and that to him I could do no wrong. He dearly loved me just as much as I dearly loved him. So believe me, you can trust in that. You probably will never be able to feel 100% about his mom, but the thing that always helped me was to sit down and have a good heart-to-heart talk with the woman. Maybe go out for coffee or something. Since you are spending a certain amount of time with the boy, this is quite appropriate to do. In fact, she will probably appreciate your concern and the fact that you want everything to be right. By the way, it sounds like you have a beautiful relationship with that boy. Thank you for sharring that, it brought back some very dear memories for me.