I believe that God had designed our brains to preform certain social functions.

Attraction, in my view, has a purpose. If we separate it from that purpose then it can appear superficial because we wonder what the point of it is.

At it's most basic level attraction is a powerful motivator for us to move into relationship... particularly sexual relationships. On a very natural level this is a helpful instinct for the purposes of procreation. When males are attracted to females and want to have sexual relations the result is babies and the survival of the species.
Of course, in human relating, the situation is much more complex.

God has not only designed us with these natural instincts but He has morraly bound them to a certain code of ethics. A man is not to go off after every person he's attracted to but to limit himself to holy relationships; thus ever having to supress and control his sexual urges and attractions.

For me where it ceases to become superficial is when I ask... what is the purpose of me being so attracted to particular boys like I am? (which is exactly like your experience in terms of its specificness and fussiness - though my 'type' is a little different to yours).

My answer is, that my attraction motivates me to move into relationship with boys and shower holy love on them. Like most males, I have to exercise self-control over the unholy desires I have, but the struggle to acheive that does not detract from the good it does me and the boys I realte to.

Further I find that the attraction has levels. That whilst his LOOKS may be the starting point of my attraction, as I move into relating then who he is as a person becomes very significant. Then as our relationship developes, who we are to each other becomes most significant such that even if he was damaged and his looks marred I'd still love him just as much. Similarly, a boy who's not my ideal will become more attractive to me as I grow to know and love him. Even his physical flaws will become "washed" by my love for him as a person and every part of him will seem wonderful, because it's him.

I suggest to you that attraction would indeed seem superficial if you don't follow it to its purpose. You never get past thinking a boy is hot or not into genuine relationship. I also would feel terribly dissasitfied with such a way of relating. So the superficiality is not that you are attracted to boys but that you never move from that into real relationship.

I myself find (as do other BLs I've spoken to) that real relating with real boys actually makes the focus on looks much less dominating and distracting. When I haven't been around real boys for a season all I tend to think about is sexing, but when I spend some quality time with a boy I care about then genuine love for his happiness and well being dominate and thoughts of sex seem very far away even if I find him very attractive. So, unless you're really struggling to execrcise self-control and see yourself as a danger to boys, I would suggest that your "no boy interaction" policy would have the reverse effect of what you're attempting to acheive.

Blessings
Cat.