Hi Azeo,

I don't really have any such rules, at least of an outward nature. But I do make it a point to not allow myself to even THINK inappropriate thoughts about my YF. Very occasionally such a thought will enter my head, but I immediately push it away and recommit my thoughts to God. For one thing, I don't ever want to "dishonor" my YF -- in my actions or my thoughts. But, also, the way I see it, if I don't even allow myself to think about (or meditate on) things I should not do in real life, that essentially eliminates the risk (for myself at least) that I would one day take such an action in real life.

If I ever were to be in the position that I was unable to control my thought life, such that I feared there was even the slightest risk I might put such thoughts into action ... I would make absolutely certain to NEVER be alone with my YF. [As it is, I do meet with him alone. I am a little concerned what others might think, but since he is in his mid-teens, and I know and trust his family (and I believe they trust me), I figure it is OK.]

Blessings,
Rainboy