Usually I advise BLs not to come out unless they are really committed to taking the social heat, but marriage is another matter. Your partner has a right to full disclosure about your sexual nature before you tie the knot or even get seriously involved, if you are predominantly a boylover. Then she can decide if she wants to do like Mrs. Cat and marry you anyways on an as-is, no-refunds basis. You have to be honest with someone who's marrying you. Therefore, getting married just to please the 'rents or just to start a family should be the last thing on your mind. Don't be less than fully honest with a woman just to achieve these ends.

If your completely unforced sexual moments (erotic dreams, masturbatory fantasies when you're tired or very horny, having big crushes on people, instances of falling desperately in love) are mostly or all about boys, you qualify as being predominantly a boylover. Merely being able to erotically fantasize about girls or have sex with them successfully does not alter this. Don't imagine yourself sufficiently straight to marry just because you had or imagined hetero sex once and your cork popped.

If your degree of natural bisexuality is so strong that half or more of your spontaneous erotic life really is about women, then you can get married without coming out, and you can just treat your male urges like any other extramarital urges. In this case, you have the basis of undertaking ordinary spontaneous heterosexuality with your partner. If you were like that, though, you probably wouldn't be a member of a boy board.

A predominant boylover might be able to do heterosexuality, but only by pushing it uphill with great exertion, and loving the girl more for her fine character than for her Song of Solomon features. Most people find that process of forced sexual redirection increasingly unbearable as time goes by. When you're in your 50's and actually have to be somewhat turned on to have sex, even with Viagra, it's game over. And she is not ready for it to be over, not by a long shot. That's called tense.

Maybe you can tell your mom you don't see yourself getting married, but you'll let her know if the situation changes.