My mum was like that when I was young.

She knew I was "gay".... didn't know the term "boylover" or even "pedophile" really back then. Heck she even knew I was into boys.

But she believed it was a stage I was going through.

When I finally announced I was getting married she never questioned it's appropriateness.... for her it was more of an "I knew it!" moment.... alas she didn't "know it"... ~sigh~

I don't regret marrying.... I absolutely don't regret having kids.... but it has been SUPER hard and there are many things I'd do differently.

My encouragements are.... don't think you CAN'T get married if you are a BL. I believe it's possible to make it work.... and to enjoy it.

But if you do choose not to marry.... see that as a very satisfactory way to live.

I see no reason why "YF = happily ever after" has to be unrealistic. As long as what you want from your YF relationship is realistic:.... being part of his life now and into the future... watching him grow into a fine young man (and being part of that process).... building a relationship with his rents..... one day seeing his own family/kids (if he has them)... these are all fine ambitions for a BL and, if you can confidently exercise self-control over your sexual urges, I would encourage the pursuite of them.

Blessings
Cat.