You're in a tight spot there. Your wife is a rarity in the history of mixed hetero-BL marriages in knowing in advance what she was getting into. That always struck me as very honest and commendable. But I don't know if you could recommend that guys tell their gf in today's world about such attractions; I would have a hard time doing it. If she went to defcon 1 and started yelling the info around the neighbourhood, how could I live with myself for giving out that advice? At the same time, though, I do think that if one is marrying a heterosexual woman one is not a heterosexual match for, one ought to break the news before one gets hitched. So that's quite the dilemma.

I have a friend who was one of five people ever given an experimental drug treatment for an autoimmune disease. He was cured; the other four died of side effects. The drug was never used again.

Your sexual self-vivisection has possibly contributed to your high level of wisdom and kindness. But I worry about the other patients who might try the same experiment. So many people are prone to depression.

Perhaps it's better for most just to buy the collected set of the Suite Life programs and settle in for a long life of being a BL. I am sure that the Spirit will guide people where they need to go, but that would be my preferential advice. Unless the person really is partly natively bisexual, as some BLs are.

Meanwhile, perhaps as you ever more accept that you and the Lord didn't change yourself, the flying purple vagina butterflies might drop out of your fantasies and they will slowly change from Yellow Submarine back to (and this title is very true) You Are Not Alone.