"My dilemma is this.... what advice should I give to other BLs considering marriage?... in the light of my own experience."

My advice comes from my interpretation of your experience and that of other MAAs. I am not married but I know many BLs and GLs who have been. Not a single BL marriage that I know well has worked long term, and I include yours in that. Either it ended in divorce or they are not happy in their marriage.

I have heard of a few that worked but they were not people I have been able to talk to extensively to find out more. This topic interests me as well and so far I have not found it to be a positive experience for other people. I am not sure where I heard this saying but I like it "Learn from others' mistakes, you can't make them all yourself."

If the topic comes up with someone I am talking to I do not advice them exactly not to do it but I tell them about the BL marriages I know of (without saying who or exact details of course) and hope they learn something.

Question for you: What would you tell someone to avoid having the same troubles you have had with marriage as a BL?

Gs