This ideal boy is much discussed around this site. He has a special name, the Holy Boy Imago, and Cat has discussed him: http://cblf.org/messages/56923.htm

and there was a poem by Darkness http://www.cblf.org/messages/52456.htm

and finally there was a rambling verbal junkpile from the banned Didaskalos that eventually ended up elsewhere on the web - not recommended as a whole but here are a few interesting outtakes:

"Today, Didaskalos gives some tips for dealing with the Holy Boy Imago. (HBI)
MOST IMPORTANT THING: show respect to him for what he is, and don't expect him to be what he's not. HE'S NOT A REAL BOY!!!!
Do not worship him (he's not god) and Do not try to grab him for sex."

"Having the HBI is what makes you a BL. Don't expect him to be a youthful problem, or phase that goes away. The general testimony from BLs is that the HBI is a life-long companion. Always treat him with respect."

"Do not put his image on porn. He flies away from that. You can collect 100,000 porn images on your hard drive, and every time you try to trap him by collecting an image, he will fly away."

"NEVER, EVER, EVER confuse your HBI with a real boy! That could lead you to do things that might ruin your relationship with both.
Recognize your HBI when he comes up in dreams, rescue fantasies, sex fantasies, relationships with your nephews/cousins, religious imagery, movies, wherever. Identify him; name him; greet him; (Hello HBI! Yesterday you were hiding in Joey, today you're hiding in Sammy, but I know who you are!) (Cuz HBI LOVES hide-and-seek!) The thing is, when you take the HBI OFFFFFFF OF Joey and Sammy, then you get to see who Joey and Sammy really are."

I myself don't use the term 'holy boy imago' and it was a task to dredge it up to pull this post together.

I look at it more scientifically, based on the field of ethology, and here's my synopsis as reposted by CX in the CJAT church website (link is pasted in)

"suppose you feel (at around age 4) that you are being forced by your circumstances as a boy to be taking a harder and more aggressive path than you are really are comfortable with, and yet you don't really identify with girls and don't feel like giving your ideal maleness up. The way your consciousness is working, all the vulnerable, soft, sweet, spontaneous gentle characteristics that you are obliged to lose don't seem to belong to women, but rather to an ideal boy who was once you or part of you, or someone like a little brother who needed protection. In that case your sexual attraction goes to that Otherself who is a lost beautiful magical boy and you become a boylover."

The Boy you seek is an ideal Otherself. To desire him is to feel the fundamental pain that all humans feel in their sexuality. With some boylovers, they can never abate this pain by having sex with someone who triggers this image, because the boys involved are all too young. If you are like me, though, with a sexuality that crosses the line into legal, you can find a boy who is maybe not quite so ideal, but, when you are both in love with each other, you can drink an infinite draught of this ambrosia from each other's lips and be beautifully pleased with it.

If you can't have sex with a boy like this, then what also works is being very helpful, benevolent and friendly with a boy who captures a trace of your Otherself.



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