When you say you WILL get married and have children, how do you know? Are you going to follow the Cat example and do marriage/kids without any significant heterosexual attraction, or are you bisexual enough to get satisfaction from a heterosexual sex life? (You have to like it a lot, because it goes on for years and years and years).

Another mystery is how you will have a boyfriend at the same time as doing the wife/kids thing, and why this will be 'pseudo-romantic.' I have a boyfriend and our relationship has no pseudo's about it; it's just romantic. Moreover if I took up with a girl he'd be stunned and very jealous. Same-sex couples can adopt, so why upset your bf by having an adulterous affair?

The key to understanding where your sexuality really lies is in delicate topics:

- when you used to have (or if you still have) wet-dreams, what topic ran through your mind? (this can be very variable; you don't need to answer this on the internet, it's just something to think about)
- when you masturbate, what do you think about when you're not trying to tell your thoughts where to go? If you realized you were late for an appointment and had to have an instant orgasm, what would you think of? (again, you need not say it on the internet)

When you're 17-25 you are at the height of your sexual powers and, if society and your family wanted you to marry a cow moose and make mooslings, you could grit your teeth and do it.

But the core values of your sexuality that come out when you answer the questions above will be what goes with you to the end of your life. If you have put together a sexual relationship with someone, girl or boy, it will tend to be vivid if you have this factor working with you, and somewhere between placid (tolerable to pleasant) and listless (tediously annoying) if you don't.

Many people out there may not like your personal truth, whatever it may be, but you may as well know it and be happy with it yourself.

You don't need to categorize it, but the human mind is agile enough to make reasonably adept categories for everything in nature, so there's no harm in describing your sexuality in words when you know it well enough to do so.