You bring up a good point and I think Robert-I explained things fairly well as well. I don't think it's as black and white as saying you are a bl or gay or bi or whatever. There are certainly degrees. I know one person who is into boys, girls, and women but not men. I have met others who are into everything. I have met some who are primarily bl but also somewhat gay. There seems to be a great variety, and that's cool. I definitely don't think you should pick a label and stick with it. I think you should just figure out what it is you are really all about and then use any labels you find convenient.

The advice Robert-I gives is very useful as far as figuring out what your main sexual attraction is all about. But also, I think there is a certain emotional component you need to figure. Suppose you do think primarily about boys when it comes to fantisizing sexually, but what about your romantic aspirations? Do you enjoy the company of boys or are they purely of a sexual interest? Do you find yourself thinking a lot about a specific girl or guy instead?

There's no rush. I don't mean to say pick something and stick with it. I mean to say that it's important to allow yourself the space to figure out what you are all about. Once you have, then choose any labels you find convenient (or don't, if you prefer not to).