Great news, Splash!
Submitted by Bach on August 29 2000 16:52:55
In reply to Call me Splash! :) No longer FeelingDirty, Thanx submitted by Splash! on August 29 2000 03:46:19
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I am glad that I and the rest of our community here could reach out and make you feel comfortable with us. I have often found that writing things out is a sort of therapy, it forces us to really think about our situation. "Boylover" is a word that means many things to different people. For me, the most important is that I want to see myself in a "positive frame of reference". So often my attraction is talked about in ways that make me feel bad about myself, and I know that's not what God wants me to dwell on. You asked a big question: If I see a boy and feel these "sexual feelings" rise up within me, should I try to quench them and/or feel ashamed of them? It's one that has been debated several times, and in different ways (should one masturbate, etc). One thing is sure, we don't all agree here on what we should do with these urges. And maybe what one person needs to do is different from his neighbours... I should use it [my attraction] properly. It can be a very honorable thing. Perhaps this is God's will for my life, and "the enemy" sees this and tries to step in and make me feel guilty about it. Sadly, the reality is that there are also boylovers who, trying to do the right thing, lose control and do have sexual contact with their beloved. It is a sad fact that our flesh is weak. That's why I believe community and mutual exhortation is so important. Peace of Christ, Bach |
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