Re: A Question of Accountability
Submitted by GCFboi on December 11 2000 23:04:38
In reply to A Question of Accountability submitted by Triple Q on December 11 2000 22:09:48
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Like I said before, child molestation is one of the worst sins. Pedophiles who molest children intentionally, out of selfish and lustful motives, with little or no concern for the child's welfare, will be held accountable spiritually by being sent to hell, unless they confess their sin and repent in their heart. That is my personal opinion. And lengthy jail time is a good way of STARTING to hold people accountable in the physical realm. A lot of boylovers are probably going to hate me for saying the next thing: I also think that sex offender registration is a good idea. Oops! I bet you'll not like that! There is a difference between creating a registry for people who have committed violent and abusive acts against innocent children, and using that registry as an excuse for cruel and usual punishment, or vigilantism. Yes, the sex offender registries are being used wrongly right now to shame people unnecessarily and to get revenge; but the concept of just keeping tabs on people who have hurt children in the past is not bad. If the sex offender registry information was simply kept private, accessible only to the police, courts, children's agencies, and other professionals, and NOT to the public, then I think it would work. And perhaps, just to be nice, the interval for registering people could be reduced to once a month or something, instead of once a week like it is now. And maybe, people who have committed less serious offenses should be given a second chance sooner. Perhaps the duration of sex offender registration should be 3 years, instead of ten years. I don't know, I'm just thinking out loud. I think a "loving sexual relationship" with a child, any child who is not yet reached a point of maturity where he/she can fully understand sex and the consequences of sex [I think anyone 6 years old has not reached this point yet], should NEVER go beyond things like cuddling, holding, maybe kissing or perhaps gentle touching. I think that this is the most ANY child could ever hope to be able to offer to an adult, and I think that even this is pushing pretty far in most cases. I think that pedophiles will need to learn that, under a certain age [8? 10? 12?], kids are just not ready for sexually explicit contact at all, and it would be a rare kid who could handle it. Maybe AT THE TIME they wouldn't mind, but as an adult they would feel weird about it. Personally, I think 12 is about the earliest age at which most kids are even ready to consider having overt sexual relationships with anyone older (ie. involving something beyond the acts that I stated above). As for the question of whether it is possible for someone that young to have a healthy relationship with an adult, all I can tell you is that when I was 12 I was fantasizing about one certain teacher at my school every day; and I wouldn't have been too upset if he'd offered to fulfill my fantasies! He was a beautiful man, and I did love him as a person; he was a good teacher, and I respected him in many ways, including for his physical beauty. Yes, I am equally and generally attracted to males between the ages of 14-60, and sometimes I have feelings for guys on either side of that range too. I think the youngest people I've ever seen who I find attractive are 12-13yo boys who are unusually mature for their age; and I still think that some of the older (over 60) guys that I know are attractive too. Pretty much anyone who has at least started puberty makes it in my book. So my sexuality is very diverse with regards to age, in fact, I hardly think of age as an issue at all. Beautiful guys are beautiful guys, no matter what age they are. As for people whose age of attraction drops off at a certain point (ie, they are not attracted to someone after they get to be a certain age), why consider that a problem? Is it wrong that teachers do not necessarily see or keep in touch with their students after they graduate? Does that mean that the work they did as a teacher in that boy's life was useless? Childhood is an important part of life; to love a child, even if part of the love ends when the child grows up, is not wrong, because that person will be forever better for having been loved as a child, even if the relationship ended. Relationships end all the time; even straight people fall out of love. So I don't think this is a fair criticism. |
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