Jordan, Did someone hurt you?
Submitted by Once a Boy on January 24 2001 21:10:06
In reply to Re: I say again, Dear Jordon, what is thou point? submitted by Jordan on January 24 2001 20:04:06
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Indeed, you seem to want to have reasons for us being the way we are. In the end, it matter not. Why are you obssessed with knowing? Did your dad, a brother, a cousin, or a man in your childhood do something to you? Did your own child get molested by a man? There are people who violate other people. There may be some in this group who have "fallen." We are human. From a Billy Joel song, "We're only human; we're suppose to make mistakes!" Indeed forgiving others for hurting us is difficult, and forgiving ourselves for things we have done is not easy. Everyone in the world should remember that we are forgiven and that we should shine on despite our past, present and future "screw ups." I have been getting an impression that you have anger at "us." For a white family member who loses their child to a black gang member, it is easier to hate all blacks. However, that isn't fair, and it isn't right. In the same way, there are men who love boys who do not rape them. You seem to be wanting to place us in this box of sin, a guilt ridden place of darkness. Indeed, loving a boy is not an easy thing to do. It actually takes courage. Society looks at us strangely, and sometimes we may have sexual thoughts that confuse the love that actually exists. I pray for us to be able to use the "gift" God has given us to build boys up and not tear them down. I pray we experience the love that we need, and in turn, have the boy experience a love that he also needs. With "my" Joseph, a lot of healing took place by being so intimately involved with him. His pain and my pain were conquered by love. I had uplifted many boys and girls over the years; however, the deep pain was healed in many ways by loving Joe and he loving me...and of course God blessing our times together! I hope you better understand the differences within this group called "boylover" and the differences within this particular group. I wish you healing in whatever the reason you are here. I thought that post about the man who lost everything because of pornography at his computer at work was you! I thought I knew you, and then you said, "It was a story I found." What was the purpose of that post? I do not know you! Feel free to be open. Did someone hurt you? Did someone hurt your child? Why are you trying to fear us into not getting involved in boy's lives? In reflection, these posts are to fear us into submission! Fear us into changing! Why? Once a Boy |
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